Communication

[ kuh-myoo-ni-key-shuhn ]

noun
the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.

Doesn’t sound very complicated, right? Well, let me tell you, it’s not as easy as it sounds. You can follow studies in the field of communication. But I think the best way to learn to communicate is by doing it. And preferably in nice and complicated situations. Does that sound like something for you? Maybe you should visit a community. 😉 Preferably one where different languages ​​are spoken.

You are good at some things, less so at others. I’m bad at confrontation. Something I didn’t learn to deal with as a child. They were avoided, and if there was a confrontation it was not resolved but time did its work.

So this is now a complicated event for me when people are angry or irritated with each other and express that. I still cringe a bit like I did when I was a kid. Which doesn’t mean I have to avoid these situations. They are a good learning experience for me.

My first reaction is to run when things get difficult. I’ve done that often enough. But if I want to live in a community with my family, that is no longer an option. And so I will have to deal with such situations differently. What helps me is to put myself in the other person’s shoes. Everyone acts or reacts differently to certain situations. And it may be that this is not my way, but I can assume that someone is not making my life difficult on purpose.

Understanding can arise when you get to know and understand the other person. This takes effort and time. But in a world where everyone has become so incredibly individualistic, so hard on themselves and others and so self-centered that it can almost be called narcissistic, I would like to explore another option. One where we see each other again as people and not as a burden. One where we make an effort for the other even if things don’t go exactly the way we want. One where you can trust your fellow human being that he or she will not leave you as if you don’t matter. That there is the will to do things together, to make sure the other is ok. Not because you have to, but because you want to.